The fact is, we are supposed to grow up moving through heterosexual relationships until we decide to marry; then we are supposed to spend thousands of dollars on one day and a million details as [probably] young people who really can't afford to do so - even with the help of family. The wedding party is supposed to spend hundreds (which they may or may not have) on formal wear, showers, gifts, etc. Spending money we don't need to or don't have...sound at all like the mortgage crisis? What is it about our culture that drives us to spend at the very top - or beyond - our limits?
I have to disclose that I had a pretty big wedding with all the bells and whistles (except for the garter; there was no garter or creepy peep show). My husband and I were in a unique situation financially and were also lucky to not have any overbearing parties trying to weigh in all the time. Like I said, some people want a big wedding and they can do it the way they want without taking it too seriously. That's why I loved my wedding - I think we had the right mindset about it. I didn't care that Joe's hem fell or that a groomsman lost a button. I never wanted to yell at anyone or correct the way they were doing something. Joe was involved in everything, so I felt like we were a team - not like I was taking on the world by myself, and that everyone would be judging me based on the results. Now I think I could have been more subversive, yes. I could have had my bridesmaids wear black so they wouldn't have buy anything special that they'd never wear again. I think that's the one thing I would change.
So, ok, to the point. I'm not talking about condemning people for following tradition. I'm talking about a system of religion and media that forces women to believe in the myth of
Whew. I've been feeling a rant coming on that had nothing to do with crafts.
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